Do You Feel Like a Fraud?

Ever feel like you’re just waiting to be found out? Like everyone around you has it figured out, while you’re secretly winging it? If so, you might be experiencing imposter syndrome.

Who Experiences Imposter Syndrome?

The good news? You’re not alone. Many high achievers, from successful professionals to well-known public figures, struggle with these feelings. Michelle Obama, Howard Schultz, Serena Williams, and Tom Hanks have all spoken about moments of self-doubt, fearing that people will one day discover they’re not as capable as they seem.

While studies show that imposter syndrome is more prevalent among women, men experience it too. It’s particularly common among successful individuals; those with impressive credentials, thriving careers, and the respect of their peers who still feel as though their achievements are down to “luck” rather than “ability”.

What Causes Imposter Syndrome?

At the heart of imposter syndrome are limiting beliefs; deep-seated thoughts that hold you back. These beliefs don’t announce themselves as false; instead, they masquerade as truths, reinforcing fears of failure or even success. This can lead to self-sabotage, as we convince ourselves we’re not capable or worthy.

Recognising the roots of imposter syndrome is the first step, but how do you move past it? The Coaching A-F Model provides a practical framework to help you shift from self-doubt to self-belief.

The Coaching A-F Model: Moving Past Imposter Syndrome

A – Awareness
Recognise when imposter feelings arise. What situations trigger them? Jot down these moments to uncover patterns and start challenging them.

B – Belief Shift
Imposter syndrome is common, but feeling unqualified doesn’t mean you are. Learning to separate feelings from facts is a powerful step toward changing your inner dialogue.

C – Confidence Through Action
Small, intentional steps build confidence. If you tend to dismiss praise, try keeping a record of positive feedback. If speaking in meetings feels daunting, set a goal to contribute once per session.

D – Defining Your Achievements
Flip the script. That little voice saying, "I just got lucky"? Challenge it. Say, "I put in the work, and I deserve this." Recognising your efforts helps you own your success.

E – Evolving Your Mindset
Imposter feelings don’t disappear overnight, but you can develop strategies to manage them. Mental rehearsal, visualising yourself confidently handling situations can be a game changer! So can self-compassion. Treat yourself with the same kindness you’d offer a friend in your position.

F – Future Growth
The goal is to become your own coach. What habits will help maintain your confidence? Regularly reviewing your success journal, using affirmations, or building a strong support network can all reinforce self-belief.

Final Thoughts

Imposter syndrome isn’t a sign that you lack ability, it’s a sign that you care. By challenging limiting beliefs and shifting your perspective, you can move past self-doubt and step into your full potential.

If this resonates with you and you’re ready to take the next step, let’s explore how coaching can help. Email me at dennis.stanley@marriage-stanley.com or book a free, no-obligation 30-minute exploratory call here. We’ll discuss where you are, where you want to be, and how we can work together to get you there.